tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-54656609390100308762024-02-19T19:43:18.807-06:00This Loving ChaosWife to one
Mama to three (and two furries)
Thriving in our chaosJahmarihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16735428360169210657noreply@blogger.comBlogger227125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5465660939010030876.post-13723360810805932772018-06-09T03:14:00.002-05:002018-06-09T03:14:24.009-05:00StrongI have always been “strong”.<div>
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It’s probably a word that many people who know me would use to describe my personality...Strong.</div>
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Maybe because my strength has been a facade created over many years of protecting myself from dangers, real and perceived. An armor that I crafted that has been worn for so long, it can no longer be removed.</div>
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How do you tell people that you’re not strong? That you’re vulnerable and soft. That you feel everything to your core. That sometimes you need to be saved.</div>
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How do you remove your armor when it’s the only protection your heart has?</div>
Jahmarihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16735428360169210657noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5465660939010030876.post-77772456595762684702018-04-14T02:58:00.000-05:002018-04-14T02:58:58.355-05:0004/05/18 // why float when you can swimI remember talking to my mother in law about being stressed out and she told me to just “stay afloat”.<br />
Staying afloat is something I know well. I have stayed afloat for most of my life, even when I was sinking inside. I have gotten so good at staying afloat that when I crash and burn, the people in my life are surprised, and honestly I am too.<br />
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Today I had a conversation with a friend and she shared these same feelings with me. I think, as women, we are told that we’re so strong, we won’t crack under pressure. And if we do start to crack, we should fake it/stay afloat until we’re over it. Now, don’t get me wrong. I think that women are incredibly strong but that strength doesn’t take away from the fact that we need support. We need sisterhood, we need villages and friendships. We need to be able to rely on others until we are able to swim instead of float.<br />
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Our conversation spark something within. If I am struggling with aspects of womanhood, and so are other women in my life, why aren’t we encouraging each other to swim? I want to be a support for the women I love. I want to support them when they can only stay afloat but encourage them to swim and I hope they do the same for me.Jahmarihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16735428360169210657noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5465660939010030876.post-3264580289872443602017-10-20T14:41:00.003-05:002017-10-20T14:43:16.715-05:0010/20/17 // #metooI was 10 when it happened.<br />
I only know this because I still remember the house we lived in.<br />
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I wanted to go to my aunt's house so when my mom's friend, who was visiting, offered to give me a ride, I didn't think twice.<br />
On the way to my aunt's, he told me he needed to pick something up from his house before he dropped me off.<br />
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I was 10 so I didn't question this.<br />
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He told me to come with him while he went inside.<br />
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Again, I was 10, so I didn't question this.<br />
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I don't remember much of what happened but I'll never forget what he said to me. Those words have lived within my for the past 22 years and I doubt they'll ever go away...I'll never forget them.<br />
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I remember that after the assault, instead of taking me to my aunt's house, he drove me to a parking lot a block from my house. When I got out of the car, he told me that if I didn't tell anyone, he would give me things.<br />
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I walked home and immediately told my mom.<br />
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I don't know what happened afterward. I'm sure I blocked it out in an effort to protect myself. I do know that he wasn't charged and continued to live in my town. I remember seeing him years later and when he saw my face, it was as if he'd seen a ghost. I remember feeling a sense of power over his reaction.<br />
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Now, at 32 (and with the #metoo allowing for these stories to be heard), I am remembering things that I, no doubt, suppressed. That man's (he had to be in his 40s when he assaulted me) backyard <b>literally</b> shared a fence with an elementary school. <b>I was 10! </b>That man was a pedophile.<br />
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For years I blamed myself for what happened. If I hadn't been so developed at 10, this wouldn't have happened. If I had just walked instead of going inside with him, this wouldn't have happened.<br />
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But there is nothing that I could have possibly done at 10 to excuse what happened to me. I was assaulted. And like so many other people in this world, we're not victims, we're survivors.Jahmarihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16735428360169210657noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5465660939010030876.post-68822963940887424492017-07-29T14:43:00.002-05:002017-07-29T14:45:00.961-05:0007/29/17 // unwantedI have felt unwanted my entire life. Constantly surrounded by people who never made an effort to get to know me, or even love me. I walked through life as an empty shell, <strike>waiting</strike> begging for someone to come along and fill me up with their presence. And it never happened. And now I'm a mother trying to raise healthy, happy children, when I'm neither. And even though their love and laughter is the only thing keeping me afloat, I also know that their presence is only temporary. One day they'll leave and start lives of their own. I just hope they still want me.Jahmarihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16735428360169210657noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5465660939010030876.post-62488233839295504892017-07-10T03:15:00.002-05:002017-07-10T03:15:27.123-05:0007/09/17 // a fresh starta quick note: I am moving in a new direction with this space. After (almost) a year absence, I realized that I want to have this be a space for me to journal. No catchy titles and clique topics, just thoughts and feelings of a mom/wife trying to show up every day and give my all even if that means falling hard along the way. I will still post pictures and touch on our everyday life but I will also post raw, unedited versions of myself as well. So, let's start this new journey. <div>
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Life. Life happens fast when you least expect it. One day you think you have it in your grasp only to feel it hit you, hard, just to remind you that it's in control. A year in Hawai`i has come and gone. Even though everything around me is moving so fast, days flying by, turning from sunrise to darkness in the blink of an eye, I am stagnant. Staying the same while life around me changes and evolves. Every day another version of the last until I broke free of the fog of mediocrity and excuses that held me blind for so long (longer than I'd like to admit). I am finally ready to show up every day. To be vulnerable. To hold myself accountable. And to be the mom and wife I know I can be. This journey is long overdue. </div>
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Am I the only mom who looks at her children and can't believe that she's their mother?<br />
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Maybe but probably not. I swear I was just 21 yesterday and now I'm the mother of three amazing, beautiful children. Children who rely on me now but will eventually leave and start their own separate lives.<br />
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I try not to think about that too much because that's just living in the future instead of being present and embracing the season of motherhood that I'm in.<br />
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My season is littles running around, never having a completely clean house, temper tantrums and breaking up fights. It's love and exhaustion and frustration and joy on a daily (sometimes minute by minute) basis. It's being completely overwhelmed during the day and laying in a bed filled with little bodies at night <b>knowing</b> I wouldn't have life any other way.<br />
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This season of motherhood won't last long. One day I'll blink and my littles will be bigs and I'll swear that yesterday they were small enough to fit in my arms. Until then, I will try my hardest to embrace every moment of this season (even the temper tantrums, they'll make good stories later on) and let the future meet us when we get there.Jahmarihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16735428360169210657noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5465660939010030876.post-78650756460819812582016-08-07T02:12:00.003-05:002016-08-07T02:12:58.127-05:00Life and Anxiety in Paradise<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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We live in Paradise. A place where people dream of visiting yet I stay in the house. I have no motivation to leave, to explore. The desire is there. I want to get out but for some reason, it's almost like I'm held prisoner by imaginary bars...maybe there's one of those invisible electric fences surrounding my house and I'm the only one wearing a collar.<br />
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If I'm honest (which I really want to be here on this blog, in this space), this isn't new. This happened when we lived in Germany and I always had an excuse why it wasn't a problem but now, now it's obvious. I have only been to the beach once. The picture above with the bright blue sky, green grass and sparkling ocean wasn't taken by me. Will took this picture during one of his many trips to the beach with the kids. On this day in particular, I stayed locked in our hotel room like a vampire afraid to be touched by the sun.<br />
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Anxiety is something I've dealt with before. It's something I know I <strike>have to</strike> will defeat. I mean, what's the point of living in paradise if you don't bask in its aloha spirit.Jahmarihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16735428360169210657noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5465660939010030876.post-60097657554534924712016-06-19T17:42:00.001-05:002016-06-19T17:42:55.889-05:00Redefining Father's DayI have always hated Father's Day. It's that one day that makes me think about my relationship (or lack thereof) with my father. This day is a reminder of the bond I don't have and every year, I hate this day. At some point in my childhood, my father decided that parenting is optional. He cut most ties with my sister and I and moved on with his life. He remarried (I found out from the newspaper) and eventually moved back to Chicago without saying a word.<br />
After that, we had a handful of conversations mostly after I'd talk to my grandma and tell me to call him but once I realized that these conversations were one-sided (he rarely asked about my life) and superficial, I tried to contact him as little as possible. This wasn't really hard since he never once called me (even though I had the same phone number for almost 10 years) and I just accepted this.<br />
That was our relationship until the spring break I went to visit my grandma. My father was living with her at the time and I saw him face to face for the first time in years. Everything was fine until he decided to insult my mother's parenting. I exploded. How could someone who decided not to be a parent insult someone who was forced to raise kids completely alone?! That was the first time I fully realized that he thought (and still thinks) of himself as a parent, as a father. He feels as though his decision to walk away was the fault of my mother, my sister and myself. And that's when I felt hatred towards Father's Day.<br />
Once I became a mother and my children had a father of their own, I realized that I had to change my view. I couldn't let my father taint a day when my kids get to celebrate their dad. His love and commitment makes me appreciate the fathers that I see my friends raving about. He's not perfect but to my kids, he's the best. And each year that we celebrate him, I'm able to let go of the resentment Father's Day usually brings.<br />
Happy Father's Day Will.<br />
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The movers have packed most our belongings and I watched as they rolled down the street. We have one more day of packing left next week then we'll leave the house we've called home for the past three years. I must admit that this house was never really a "home" <span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">even though I have brought two lovely children home in the house and watched another grow into an awesome kid here. I</span> still remember a neighbour and her daughter coming to visit and the daughter asked if we just moved in...we'd been living here for over two years. Our house was pretty bare. No decorations, no personality so it's not too hard to leave it behind.<br>
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I have such high hopes for our next house. I realised that I need to go in this house with an idea in mind of how I want things to look. I even put together a little vision board with decorating ideas so we aren't overwhelmed. We're still embracing a simpler look so we actually downsized a lot. We both decided that if we didn't love something in our house and could survive without it, it was not getting put on the moving truck. That might seem crazy to some people but to us, we want to have a house that's homey without being clutter, that shows our personalities and we're okay with waiting a little while for everything to come together.<br>
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Besides decorating, I'm excited for the newness of this move. Everything will be new to the kids and it will signify a new, fresh start for Will and I. A new opportunity to grow, to learn.<br>
<br>I'm just going to put this out there...This move is going to be great...we'll once we get past the cleaning and traveling parts. Jahmarihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16735428360169210657noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5465660939010030876.post-18015404836594954042016-04-21T13:54:00.000-05:002016-04-23T14:04:12.481-05:00To Asher<div>
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Today is your third birthday! I know it doesn't seem like it since we celebrated last week and were preoccupied with movers today.<br />
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You are my baby boy (although you would tell me that you're a "small guy" not a baby). Even though you are a total threenager, you have a great heart and spirit. I wish I could see the world the way you do. I hope that you continue to grow and I can continue to learn and grow with you. I love you with all my heart.</div>
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Six years of marriage, three kids, two dogs, preparing to move thousands of miles away in two weeks. </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">Always learning, always evolving. </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">I am still learning to love the woman I see in the mirror. The woman who is flawed but has come so far, who will make mistakes (because she's human and not perfect) but won't repeat the mistakes of her past.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">I'm still learning to love that woman for who she is and who she can become instead of picking her apart for who she once was.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">Does that even make sense?</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">Who knows but 31 feels good. </div>Jahmarihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16735428360169210657noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5465660939010030876.post-47874364766711896282016-02-25T11:52:00.001-06:002016-03-29T03:12:40.280-05:00Motherhood || Life as a Mama Bird of Three<div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjBnTS_mq5Sje7LT0HrNAn-9-C6qVq7FhYkNOBVHN2J_GmDts-V1CNhkVCawyKZRaIwU6J8SOKZmWFiPAevFKb2t2stgQomZ3vQjET_PCEg2n9dAi2TmpRdZqiqDqKC08qCAA_n-ErRjsw/s640/blogger-image-1342274646.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjBnTS_mq5Sje7LT0HrNAn-9-C6qVq7FhYkNOBVHN2J_GmDts-V1CNhkVCawyKZRaIwU6J8SOKZmWFiPAevFKb2t2stgQomZ3vQjET_PCEg2n9dAi2TmpRdZqiqDqKC08qCAA_n-ErRjsw/s640/blogger-image-1342274646.jpg"></a></div><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjDsq1ibeNuo99XtaJmPpsbhyphenhyphenkn1mNSVbfrLGK097tE4B98r5m3_uU-zNTidyoUQbRT0dazKVbzDkUPR3QxLYWh_18i68pbifyyQJ8kG9whnAycRoKhFbiyzZgcnK5gbiR3HbqwvvX9JV0/s640/blogger-image-109080726.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjDsq1ibeNuo99XtaJmPpsbhyphenhyphenkn1mNSVbfrLGK097tE4B98r5m3_uU-zNTidyoUQbRT0dazKVbzDkUPR3QxLYWh_18i68pbifyyQJ8kG9whnAycRoKhFbiyzZgcnK5gbiR3HbqwvvX9JV0/s640/blogger-image-109080726.jpg"></a></div><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">Three little baby birds (although Asher will quickly remind me that he's not a baby). Life in our nest is chaotic, as usual. Since we're moving thousands of miles away very soon, it has been hard to get any kind of routine established. We're just going with the flow right now and that will likely be the case until we're settled in our new house/life in Hawaii (whenever that is since we have to wait for Aurora's passport to leave).</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">Without a regular routine, we've noticed a change in the boys' behavior, mostly Liam's. I have to remind myself that he's only five and I can't place unrealistic expectations on him. With that being said, I know what he's capable of doing and the behavior he should have so that's something we need to work on. Asher is a pre-threenager right now so he's horrible (I'm exaggerating). They're great kids though and I'm a truly lucky mama. Every day I get with my kids, I'm filled with gratitude, especially if they're all sleeping at the same time. </div>Jahmarihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16735428360169210657noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5465660939010030876.post-3638570530930194172016-01-28T05:40:00.003-06:002016-01-28T23:17:07.222-06:00Dear Asher...<div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj8Pwq0RyxHTLhqwWucl9UazHAKTru6yjZJGktV8foIXT3ba-Ow-wdLdqvdei_nJKFDJR12B7eGWvQ8a6U-iPocQBBZ-6fa1zy4y6BatPXVK8DFjANaursyXjq4Z-7OSMtC3amUr7gPghs/s640/blogger-image--1768670878.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj8Pwq0RyxHTLhqwWucl9UazHAKTru6yjZJGktV8foIXT3ba-Ow-wdLdqvdei_nJKFDJR12B7eGWvQ8a6U-iPocQBBZ-6fa1zy4y6BatPXVK8DFjANaursyXjq4Z-7OSMtC3amUr7gPghs/s640/blogger-image--1768670878.jpg"></a></div></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">My little ball of emotion. Being two has been hard for you and I completely understand why. Your emotions are so big that it's hard to contain them in your little body. You want so badly to be understood, to be heard. It's understandable. There are times as a mama that I feel the same way. </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">Even with so many emotions flowing, you are always such a loving soul. The way you softly touch my face when you talk to me, the way you do things with so much passion, these things make you, you (and definitely make up for the times that you're not so nice). </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">You're going to be a great big brother once we establish that the baby who's hogging Mama is indeed the same baby that used to be in Mama's belly. </div>Jahmarihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16735428360169210657noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5465660939010030876.post-8369902534523363082016-01-28T04:37:00.001-06:002016-01-28T22:47:47.670-06:00Dear Liam...<div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjlS5SOFD-8NwWhBJEOKU5vPF3m4-XBj8n3OSjG9emMQnH1HikC5Wt5MulPP039aduliQXTKYJ5yA_2NO2ZD0pOAjVcMrF-3VVmAyXOwxPUr8fuvJAv_fVB3Sigz7hd1LWU_PgR0giWHsE/s640/blogger-image--276052237.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjlS5SOFD-8NwWhBJEOKU5vPF3m4-XBj8n3OSjG9emMQnH1HikC5Wt5MulPP039aduliQXTKYJ5yA_2NO2ZD0pOAjVcMrF-3VVmAyXOwxPUr8fuvJAv_fVB3Sigz7hd1LWU_PgR0giWHsE/s640/blogger-image--276052237.jpg"></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">You held Aurora for the first time today. The look of happiness on your face brings tears to my eyes as I write this. You are an amazing kid/son/being. You have a kind heart and a huge spirit that I both admire and envy.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">I'll never forget this look because it's the same one I had when I held you (and Asher and now Aurora) for the first time.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">It's a look of pure, organic love.</div>Jahmarihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16735428360169210657noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5465660939010030876.post-67408767695623029162016-01-28T03:40:00.000-06:002016-01-28T23:22:19.175-06:00Dear Aurora Everly...<div class="separator" style="clear: both;">
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The moment you were placed on my chest, it's almost as if I had everything I could ever need in life at that exact moment. My life, my world, my universe made sense and even though we'd just met, you'd always been a part of it. I felt the same way when I met your brothers. It's a feeling that's hard to understand or to explain but it's like seeing a piece of your heart in your hands. A piece of myself in the eyes of someone I've been waiting to meet my entire life.</div>
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Jahmarihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16735428360169210657noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5465660939010030876.post-89673000495546533772016-01-22T13:25:00.001-06:002016-01-22T13:25:51.656-06:00Pregnancy Notes // 39 weeks<div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEilRkdqsR-wtTH_5cn_EbbhoHBt7-Ae54mJP9luw020G5LVsutcCUrIZbYJwRZwmIOxvIcQLEui9CU05roG6l80N12clCkKf9SftqaYc9gbs5NJCJVk7JbiBjI6wc384ZOysNgk-tZhYAU/s640/blogger-image-980631534.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEilRkdqsR-wtTH_5cn_EbbhoHBt7-Ae54mJP9luw020G5LVsutcCUrIZbYJwRZwmIOxvIcQLEui9CU05roG6l80N12clCkKf9SftqaYc9gbs5NJCJVk7JbiBjI6wc384ZOysNgk-tZhYAU/s640/blogger-image-980631534.jpg"></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">I honestly did not think I would still be pregnant right now. After my 38 week appointment, my doctor had my hopes up that I'd be meeting this tiny baby within a couple days. Well, a week and two hospital visits later, I'm still pregnant. I <span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;">actually thought I was in labor twice this week but both times turned out to be nothing. No baby, no progression and now that I'm home, I'm okay with that.</span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">This baby isn't late, I mean, I'm not even due yet. What's the rush? This baby is going to be born into a world of hurrying, of constant busyness. This baby is reminding me to slow down and enjoy our last moments together, in this body, our secret world. There's no reason to rush that. </div>Jahmarihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16735428360169210657noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5465660939010030876.post-90075003009970381472016-01-12T08:27:00.001-06:002016-01-12T14:59:56.146-06:00Pregnancy Notes // Waiting for baby<div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg9U9t3cMtBT3AV48xzY7x42OsdmaXyc0OQHc_CtIclAkgx8U8OPhf9H9HOjWtlSk9JBUYqzu-IoyRFFwrxTjjRg-f0ZmFZzQv3hOtyYvWq57rxKabk8a4v1SOVl-cmYQawcQJaLzWnm2A/s640/blogger-image--1662319667.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg9U9t3cMtBT3AV48xzY7x42OsdmaXyc0OQHc_CtIclAkgx8U8OPhf9H9HOjWtlSk9JBUYqzu-IoyRFFwrxTjjRg-f0ZmFZzQv3hOtyYvWq57rxKabk8a4v1SOVl-cmYQawcQJaLzWnm2A/s640/blogger-image--1662319667.jpg"></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">I admit, I'm getting impatient. Even though I'm only 37 weeks pregnant, I usually go into labor around this time so I'm anticipating that will be the case this time as well (although I have a feeling, I'll be pregnant for a little while longer). </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">I was waiting on some things to arrive (like the super soft blanket from Saranoni in the picture) and now that they're here and everything is freshly washed and packed, I'm even more anxious.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">I think this is the most prepared I have ever been before childbirth. The only thing I haven't done is pre-register at the hospital (something I've actually never done) but if I'm still pregnant by my next prenatal appointment on Friday, I'll take care of that then (our hospital and my doctor are in another town about 20 minutes away from our house).</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">Until then, I'm just trying to remind myself that stressing over things I can't control only hurts, not helps. Our lives will be pretty chaotic for the next few months. There's nothing I can do but embrace the chaos and thrive in it. </div>Jahmarihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16735428360169210657noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5465660939010030876.post-73781696513243643982016-01-08T07:40:00.001-06:002016-01-11T14:19:48.121-06:00Pregnancy Notes // 37 weeks<div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgQyonUkwd9BLv5949PaEcQGtO_HtSg0BTPeizJYor80ttvUDCiJ9jqtx47XDQcIeTWsumUUA8w2ngLAvRltiQaojYVQc-CSeyP3QpfztRp56w6EJiHFud9iapGQEoSQFV0mWKlZP1kwic/s640/blogger-image--998488352.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgQyonUkwd9BLv5949PaEcQGtO_HtSg0BTPeizJYor80ttvUDCiJ9jqtx47XDQcIeTWsumUUA8w2ngLAvRltiQaojYVQc-CSeyP3QpfztRp56w6EJiHFud9iapGQEoSQFV0mWKlZP1kwic/s640/blogger-image--998488352.jpg"></a></div></div><div><br></div>Everything about this time, this little baby, this life feels just right yet I can't help but fall into old habits.<div><br></div><div>The anticipation is here and I'll soon be a mama of three. Three little people to love, to teach, to learn from. This little baby will be joining our chaos soon and I know there will be more lessons for all of us while we're adjusting.</div><div><br></div><div>I know that things will not be perfect, that we will have to create a new normal, a new chaos. I know all these things yet my needs for control, for perfection are slowly creeping back in.<div><br><div>I have a feeling that letting go will be the main lesson for me during this time. </div><div><br></div><div>Letting go of control, the idea of perfection and replacing it with joy, laughter, gratitude.</div><div><br></div><div>Letting go of rigidness, of aloofness and embracing love and life. </div><div><br></div><div>I'm ready whenever you are little baby. </div></div></div>Jahmarihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16735428360169210657noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5465660939010030876.post-73312951242563883322016-01-05T06:27:00.001-06:002016-01-24T03:29:24.596-06:00Plant Based Family // Weeks 3 & 4I ate a hot dog. That felt so good to get off my chest! I felt horrible afterwards and I doubt I'll eat anything like that soon. 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Jahmarihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16735428360169210657noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5465660939010030876.post-69385995562493156002016-01-02T04:07:00.002-06:002016-01-04T16:23:32.407-06:00Growing as a Wife<div><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;">I am a very difficult person to please, I'll admit it. I can be overly critical of the people I love and sometimes a lot of times, my expectations are unreasonable. </span></div><div><br></div><div>In our five years of marriage, Will and I have been through many ups and downs. We have learned so much about each other and life in general along the way. It's so weird to realize that it's never really been the two of us. We met, got married and started a family all within a couple months (a lot of people are still surprised that we're still married, believe me, so are we at times) so my identity as a wife has always been intertwined with being a mother.</div><div><br></div><div>It has taken five years for me to realize that in order for me to be a good mama, I also have to be a good wife. Our marriage is the foundation for our family and if I continue to neglect our relationship, that foundation will never be strong. </div><div><br></div><div>This year, I am focusing on being a better me as well as building the relationships I cherish. I intend to put more effort into my marriage and I know our family will flourish in return. Although it'll never truly be the two of us, the universe brought us down this path for a reason. Last year, we hit rock bottom but 2016 will be a year of rebuilding, it will be a year of us. </div><div><br></div>Jahmarihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16735428360169210657noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5465660939010030876.post-33028331123888683092015-12-31T18:20:00.001-06:002015-12-31T18:20:08.954-06:00As 2015 Comes to a Close...<div>
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I'm laying in bed with Asher taking a little time to reflect on this year. It has been a year of struggles with a bright, shining light at the end of the tunnel. Even though I <strike>hated</strike> strongly disliked so much about this year, I'd repeat it over and over just for the moments I've shared with my babies (and Will, sometimes).<br />
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2015 was a hard year for Will and I but in the midst of our struggle, I was reminded of our three rays of light even on our darkest days. A reminder to slow down, to savor life. A reminder to figure my shit out and be the parent I needed growing up. A reminder that I'm not only here to teach my kids but to learn from them as well. A reminder that in order for me to be present and mindful, I must take care of myself first.<br />
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Over the last year, I've had visions of the woman I want to be. The woman that I know I am deep within and I plan to spend 2016 working on releasing that <strike>woman</strike> inner goddess. That doesn't mean that I'm not focusing on my family next year, it's quite the opposite actually. My family deserves that woman just like I deserve to be her. My family needs me and I am going to make damn sure that the me they get is the best version I can give. </div>
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2016 is going to be a great year of adventure, abundance and most importantly, love. I wish you all a wonderful and prosperous new year!</div>
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Jahmarihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16735428360169210657noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5465660939010030876.post-67990184138200019002015-12-27T07:52:00.002-06:002016-01-07T05:51:12.688-06:00Plant-based Family // Weeks 1 & 2<div>
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The transition was pretty much nonexistent. We didn't slowly cut out meat or anything. I just only meal planned meat free meals and when it was time to get groceries, I didn't buy any meat. It's really easy for us at home since we don't have a choice but to eat plant based but I must say that I'm really surprised that Will hasn't eaten meat. He has access to meat while at work but he's staying with this change and I think he's starting to see the benefits already. </div>
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I thought it would be neat to share a few of our meals just so people can see what a plant based family eats. I hope you enjoy the pictures like we enjoyed the meals!</div>
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Jahmarihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16735428360169210657noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5465660939010030876.post-91380218845417060312015-12-18T15:06:00.001-06:002016-01-11T14:20:49.147-06:00Pregnancy Notes // 34 weeks<div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEidQh-P7qU0xYnpBG-FsYXL7a6KIPAKoOwQ69etm0s8Sv8ohRYUovJdyjVxRvLRD7VyC0gRbpLj6U4I9djSrpPKFHr_gDTz13Vlob412y8EknE3UslaeTnIuhbkF1s6MOBrCaqEOaKkKKk/s640/blogger-image--1425942090.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEidQh-P7qU0xYnpBG-FsYXL7a6KIPAKoOwQ69etm0s8Sv8ohRYUovJdyjVxRvLRD7VyC0gRbpLj6U4I9djSrpPKFHr_gDTz13Vlob412y8EknE3UslaeTnIuhbkF1s6MOBrCaqEOaKkKKk/s640/blogger-image--1425942090.jpg"></a></div></div><div><br></div><div>We're a few days into our 34th week! I'm excited, nervous and a little anxious. I went into labor (naturally) with Asher at 37.5 weeks and I think this little baby will make an early appearance as well. We had our doctor's appointment early this week and everything looked great. I didn't have any contractions during the 20 minutes of monitoring but my doctor said that's completely fine. We scheduled my next appointment but due to the holidays and my doctor's office vacation, I won't see him again until mid January. I have a feeling I won't make it that far but we'll see. Either way, I'm ready for this baby's arrival...sort of...okay, not really but I'm anxiously awaiting the moment I see this baby for the first time. It'll be magically, just like it was the last two times. </div>Jahmarihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16735428360169210657noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5465660939010030876.post-35780007581268362672015-12-16T20:55:00.000-06:002016-01-28T23:17:57.871-06:00Dear Liam...<div>
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Five years ago, we met for the first time. I held you in my arms and for a moment we stared at each other. Little did I know that tiny little baby would turn into the amazing little man you are now.<br>
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You have this energy, this spunk that I never had the chance to experience as a child. You're the kid I wish I could have been and even though I constantly try to tame you, I never want to break your spirit.<br>
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Today I wanted you to have the perfect birthday. Even though we weren't planning a birthday party, I wanted to make the day an extra special day, just for you. Well, it turns out that your birthday was a special day for me. Everything wasn't turning out the way I planned, the way I envisioned. You never complained because in your eyes, everything was perfect. You had the perfect, imperfect fifth birthday and gave me the best present of all: your happiness.<br>
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Happy birthday lovebug!</div>
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